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The Daily Communiqué – 26 April 2019 – Ta-Nehisi Coates

The Beautiful Struggle by Ta-Nehisi Coates

I’ve said more than once that Ta-Nehisi Coates is one of the most important writers today.  If not the most important when it comes to matters of race in America. Especially matters of black and male in America.

His book Between the World and Me is written for his son explaining how to survive in a world where, “… navigating his Baltimore neighborhood was rife with literal boundaries and secret codes, any violation of which could get him beat up. Ta-Nehisi Coates attempts to make sense of the senseless. While explaining to his son, it becomes clear that there is a sort of sense in the chaos, but only to those who are so invested in making sure the ‘other’ oppressed.” (7 Stillwell review, January 16, 2017)

Then came The Beautiful Struggle about his chaotic upbringing in Baltimore surrounded by his father’s collection of Black Panther and black power movement books.   The only thing I could really identify with was being the nerd wanting to be left alone to read.  For Coates, it was comics.  For me, books.  And we were both greedy for them.

These two books offer an insight into a world I could never know, and never truly understand.  But Coates’ writing  is eloquent, teaching many things along the way.

During interviews, he is gracious and thoughtful.  At one point, he mentioned driving to the venue and seeing a billboard with his face on it.  “It’s just unreal,” he said.

There was his infamous Twitter fight with Cornel West, a professor of philosophy at Harvard, and professor emeritus at Princeton.  In 2003 (ish) a friend and I were moseying the Stanford Campus when we happened upon a lecture by Dr. West.  I found it to be obtuse and inexplicably over-complicated.  All I remember of it now is how he would lean into the lectern after a question from the audience and say, “I think the brother (or sister) for asking that question.”  And would go off on an answer which made no sense to me.  The upper class white people around us nodded their heads in sage agreement.  My friend and I looked at each other quizzically.

To be sure I hadn’t missed something, I grabbed a copy of one of his books and diligently slogged my way through it.  No wiser than before.  Maybe Philosophy just ain’t my thing.

Anyway, Dr. West and Ta-Nehisi Coates got into this righteous Twitter feud which ended with Coates leaving Twitter for good after Dr. West called him a “house n….r.”  I still don’t know what to make of that, or understand what prompted that particular epithet.

Coates’ third book, We Were Eight Years in Power languishes on my to be read stacks.   Sometimes I nip over to The Atlantic website and read his columns from there.

I was reminded of his work in a Brain Pickings post about Coates, in which Maria Popova highlights the “terror of kindness” where we have been culturally conditioned to expect the worst from those we encounter and must face our disbelief that people can actually just be kind.

The Daily Communiqué – 22 April, 2019 – 50 Shades

“Being a successful, middle-aged, overweight woman, people are so angry that you’re stepping out of line,” she said. “Sometimes it really gets me down.”  (Alexandra Alter, New York Times, The Evolution of E. L. James, April 12, 2019)

I would amend E. L. James’ comment to “being a middle-aged, overweight woman, people are angry when [they think] you step out of line.”  Something else we agree on,  the women she describes are invisible.

That’s where our agreement ends because as much as I adore writers, and believe we get to write and read whatever we want, the woman who wrote fan fiction based on teenaged vampires is not someone whose work I would ever read.

People in the know tell me Fifty Shades of Grey really damaged the kink/fetish community because she wrote about it wrong.  And from what I hear it wasn’t about consent at all.  It was abusive.  And now I read her new book is more of the same.

Let’s be clear, I am against censorship, and I am in no way encouraging she not be published.  Nor am I encouraging people not read her.

What I am saying is women have a hard enough time being taken seriously anywhere, and fantasies written about men sweeping an unlikely candidate off her feet and abusing her in the name of love are not helping.

Glorifying non-consensual unbalanced power relationships just sets everyone up to believe that’s okay.  Fetish/kink is all about consent.  Nothing happens between people unless there is a clear understanding of what’s allowed and isn’t.  We should all be so lucky as to know what we’re in for.

“Bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, and sadism are ‘varsity-level’ sex activities, as the sex columnist Dan Savage might say, and they require a great deal of self-knowledge, communication skill, and education. Fifty Shades eroticizes sexual violence, but without any of the emotional maturity and communication required to make it safe.” (Emma Green, Consent Isn’t Enough: The Troubling Sex of Fifty Shades, The Atlantic, February 10, 2015)

I may have taken more than a little glee in

“It’s not just that [the book] is bad. It’s that it’s bad in ways that seem to cause the space-time continuum itself to wobble, slightly, as the words on the page rearrange themselves into kaleidoscopic fragments of repetition and product placement.”  (Sophie Gilbert, The Indelible Awfulness of E. L. James’s The Mister, The Atlantic, April 18, 2019)

I will end by saying good for E. L. James for following her passion and getting published.  That’s a dream most writers never see come true.  And good for her for making so much money, and being smart about it.

It’s disheartening that such obviously poorly written books about a sexually abusive relationship which is emotionally dangerous is so popular.  Women all over the world probably think this is the way romantic relationships are supposed to work, and will continue to pine for their multi-millionaire fantasy man to rescue them from a dreary, sexless reality.

Stand up for yourself!  Engage your own agency and find happiness within yourself.  If kink is your thing, find a community which will help you explore it in a physically and emotionally healthy way.  Get a vibrator for goodness’ sake.  No man is going to rescue you.

 

 

 

The Daily Communiqué – 14 April, 2019 – Week 2 Recap

Monday’s announcement of the Hugo nominees led me to write about my experiences with WorldCon and meeting authors.

I’ve been listening to a lot of different music at work, thanks to the global record collection, and shared some of my discoveries on Tuesday.

In the same vein, on Wednesday there were works by artists I found intriguing.

Some reflective writing on writing on Thursday.

A tiny bit of fiction for Friday night.  The monster is real!

And rounding out the week, my reaction to former pope Benedict’s letter about sex abuse in the Catholic Church.

Currently reading:  Black Leopard, Red Wolf by Marlon James.  I don’t know what I think about it yet, other than it’s weird.

The Daily Communiqué – 13 April, 2019 – Benedict

I cannot let this pass.

The ex-pope known as Benedict released a screed blaming the sexual revolution of the 1960s for priests abusing children in the Catholic church.

Rachel Donadio’s article in The Atlantic is a fascinating look into the bizarre writings of a 92 year old pope emeritus, and how they’ve just muddied the handling of an already fraught situation.

“From afar, the Vatican is seen as an impenetrable and mysterious world, a place of ancient, sacred rituals and quiet religiosity. Inside, it turns out it’s a bureaucracy like any other. Sometimes the former boss weighs in, and what was once opaque becomes clearer, and even stranger.” (

Let’s be clear, abuse is not about an absence of God or the presence of naked bodies on billboards, it is about the agency of predators.  Millions of children have been traumatized because priests chose to sexually abuse them.

I know from experience how difficult it is to deal with the complex emotions of loving your predator, and the shock which comes with realizing what was done was abuse.  I was powerless, so were all those children, in the face of abuse perpetrated by a powerful person in our lives.

The Catholic church is powerful enough to do something about this, and has yet to fully address it. Not enough is being done to protect the congregants of the Church.

I cannot let this pass without comment.